Feeling left out
Not included in something you wanted to be part of.
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Where it sits on the wheel
Left out is in the outer ring, under Sad › Lonely.
A gentle prompt
It makes sense that this hurts. Where do you feel welcome, even a little?
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Something that might help right now
Soft rain in the background, for company while you sit with this.
Small things some people find helpful
- Reach out to someone you enjoy spending time with, even with a short message. Source: NHS Every Mind Matters, Dealing with loneliness
- Make a small plan of your own, and invite someone along.
- Spend a little time on something you enjoy that doesn’t depend on anyone else. Nothing To Do has a few ideas. Source: NHS Every Mind Matters, Dealing with loneliness
- If it’s someone you’re close to, you could tell them you’d have liked to be included.
Feelings near left out
Lonely (one ring in)
Left out is loneliness about one thing you weren’t included in.
Isolated (also under Lonely)
Isolated is being apart from people in general; left out is about one group or one event.
Unseen (also under Lonely)
Left out is not being included; unseen is being there and not being noticed or understood.
About the feelings wheel
Left out is one of the 104 words on the Slow Days feelings wheel, and the list of feelings has them all. The wheel isn’t a test or a diagnosis.
If a feeling has been heavy for a while, or you don’t feel safe, please talk to someone you trust or reach out for free support. If you’re in danger, call your local emergency number.